05 Jun Growth Mindset for Kids: Turning “I Can’t” Into “I Can”
It’s a familiar scene for many parents and educators:
“I can’t do this!”
“I’m just not good at math.”
“I’ll never be as smart as them.”
Sound familiar?
These kinds of statements are often signs of a fixed mindset—a belief that abilities and intelligence are set in stone. But the good news? With the right tools and encouragement, kids can shift into a growth mindset, where they believe they can improve through effort, learning, and persistence.
In this post, we’ll explore what a growth mindset is, why it matters, and simple, therapist-approved ways to help your child or teen build resilience through the power of “I can.”
What Is a Growth Mindset?
The term growth mindset was coined by psychologist Carol Dweck. It’s the belief that our talents and abilities can be developed through hard work, feedback, and learning from mistakes.
In contrast, a fixed mindset believes that intelligence, talent, or personality are unchangeable traits.
Growth mindset says:
✔️ “Mistakes help me learn.”
✔️ “I’m not there yet, but I’m getting closer.”
✔️ “With effort and help, I can figure this out.”
Why It Matters
Children and teens with a growth mindset are more likely to:
- Embrace challenges
- Stay motivated after setbacks
- Feel less anxious about making mistakes
- Persevere through difficult tasks
- Build greater self-confidence over time
And the best part? Growth mindset can be taught and nurtured just like any other skill.
Exercises to Build a Growth Mindset
Here are some simple, practical ways to help your child start shifting their thinking.
1. The Power of “Yet”
When your child says “I can’t,” encourage them to add one little word: yet.
❌ “I can’t do fractions.”
✅ “I can’t do fractions yet.”
This helps them see the task as something they can work toward, not something that’s permanently out of reach.
Try This:
Create a “Yet Wall” at home or in the classroom where kids can post things they’re working on but haven’t mastered—yet.
2. Celebrate Effort, Not Just Results
Instead of praising outcomes (“You got an A!”), focus on the process:
- “You really stuck with that even when it got hard.”
- “I saw how much effort you put into studying.”
- “I love how you tried a new strategy.”
This teaches kids that effort, problem-solving, and perseverance are just as valuable as natural talent.
3. Model Growth Mindset Language
Kids are always listening. When adults show vulnerability and persistence, it sets a powerful example.
Instead of saying:
“I’m terrible with technology.”
Try:
“I’m still learning this, but I’m getting better with practice.”
Final Thoughts: Start Small, Stay Consistent
Building a growth mindset doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time, consistency, and patience. But even small shifts in language and thinking can lead to big changes in how kids face challenges—both in school and in life.
By helping your child move from “I can’t” to “I can learn how,” you’re not just teaching them how to succeed; you’re showing them how to bounce back, try again, and grow into their potential.
If you’d like more support, either for yourself or for your child, consider contacting our offices today. We are also offering skill builder workshops this summer that may help improve your child’s growth mindset and confidence!
Sources
Slumberkins, Top 6 Growth Mindset Activities for Kids
Boys & Girls Club of America, A Growth Mindset Matters: Helping Youth Be Resilient
American University, How To Foster a Growth Mindset in Children
