Parenting Teenage Girls Video Series — Week 5

Parenting Teenage Girls Video Series — Week 5

Untangled: Chapter 5 — Contending with Adult Authority

In last week’s video, Dr. Galvin and Dr. Snyder addressed “Planning for the Future,” from Lisa Damour’s book, Untangled. Young girls might feel many physical and emotional during the 7 transitions into adulthood. Dr. Galvin and Dr. Snyder shared the physical changes to a young girl’s brain and how some young girls might want to felt heard, and how they might not want a solution to their issues. This week, we will learn about how and why your daughter might want to contend with adult authority more often.

Some things addressed by Dr. Galvin and Dr. Snyder this week include:

  • Seeing Behind the Curtain

    • Has your daughter started to question your authority by rolling her eyes or talking back?

  • The End of “Because I Said So”

    • When she expresses an objection, take her seriously and offer her an explanation, a compromise or your agreement.

  • Framing Danger

    • The power of social influence is prevalent in adolescence. How do we make sure she doesn’t engage in anything dangerous?

  • Rupture and Repair

    • We can’t avoid fights with them, we just have to make sure they are constructive ones.

    • Shaming is one of the worst things you could do when angry.

  • Crazy Spots and Adults with Faults

    • Everyone has flaws and it seems like your daughter knows how to attack them. Try your best to be honest with her about them, and you might gain some more respect.

  • Holding the Line

    • What do you do when they become belligerent or when they break the rules?

  • When do you worry?

    • When your teen never rubs an adult the wrong way

    • When your teen rubs most adults the wrong way

    • When key authority figures work against each other

  • The usefulness and importance of testing

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In the coming weeks’ videos, Dr. Galvin and Dr. Snyder will explore other transitions into adulthood:

“Entering the Romantic World”

“Caring for Herself”

If any of these issues persist or worsen, consider having your child talk with a therapist. Contact us at (734) 323-4897 or for more information.

By: Grace O’Neill