Parenting Teenage Girls Video Series — Week 3

Parenting Teenage Girls Video Series — Week 3

Untangled: Chapter 2 — Joining a New Tribe

In Chapter Two of Lisa Damour’s book, Untangled, Dr. Galvin and Dr. Snyder address “Joining a New Tribe.” Last week, we addressed how teenage girls might loosen ties with their families and move closer to their peers. This still remains true with “Joining a New Tribe.” Your daughter might want to find her “own people.”

Your Daughter might ask herself things like:

  • Do I like my tribe?

  • Should I try to join a better tribe?

  • Does my tribe represent who I am or who I want to be?

In the video, more of these areas from Chapter 2 are explained in depth:

  • The Pull of Popular

    • Does your daughter try her hardest to fit in with the “in crowd”?

    • Did you know that there are different types of popularity?

  • Tribal Warfare

    • When girls disagree, they tend to be cruel or be walked over. We should teach them to be assertive.

  • Frenemies

    • Does your daughter have that one friend who is always hot and cold with her?

  • If Your Tribe Jumped Off a Bridge

    • Your daughter has a higher chance of making bad decisions while around friends. How should we handle it?

  • When Tribes Need Elders

    • Girls tend to tell their friends when they are engaging in all sorts of self-harming behaviors. What is the most important thing to do?

  • Social Media Skills

    • Having boundaries on the internet is vital. How should parents address them?

  • When to worry:

    • If she has no tribe

      • Loneliness is a great risk factor for depression.

    • If she is a victim of bullying

      • The effects of bullying can be long lasting.

    • If she bullies her peers

      • They might do this to create a sense of belonging or relieve boredom.

In the coming weeks’ videos, Dr. Galvin and Dr. Snyder will explore other transitions into adulthood:

“Harnessing Emotions”

“Contending with Adult Authority”

“Planning for the Future”

“Entering the Romantic World”

“Caring for Herself”

If any of these issues persist or worsen, consider having your child talk with a therapist. Contact us at (734) 323-4897 or for more information.

By: Grace O’Neill